Thursday, 6 August 2015

Attachment Parenting Links

ISIS Mother Infant Separation.  SIDS and breastfeeding.

Breastfeeding, Bedsharing and Infant Sleep by Helen Ball

Study cited on NHS choices

Friday, 20 March 2015

Meditation Script for Letting Go & Forgiveness

Get comfortable.. if you`re lying down let your whole body relax and become comfy. Allow your arms to relax down by your side, (if you`re sitting, then relax your hands on your lap or at your side) in whatever way feels comfy) and your feet apart and settled on the floor.
And close your eyes. This is your time now, so leave all your worries at the door. Allow yourself to relax into the flow of the moment.  There is only right here, right now. Notice any sounds outside of the room, acknowledge them and let them go. Notice any sounds inside of the room, acknowledge them and let them go.
Tell your body to relax. Let your feet & legs soften into position. Drop your shoulders. Relax your hands. Allow your full body to soften down and relax into a natural position.
 Take a deep cleansing breath in…and let it flow out again, breathing out the tension in your body.
Allow your breathing to fall into its own natural rhythm, not trying to control it in any way.
Keep your awareness to your breath. Notice the cool sensation as it goes in through your nose, down the back of your throat, and into your lungs. Then notice as it leaves again back through your throat and nose. Let your breathing fall into its natural rhythm. Just observe it as it moves in and out. In and out. Acknowledge any random thoughts that come into your mind and let them go, as you bring your attention back to your breathing, in and out. Watching your natural breathing rhythm, in and out..
If thoughts intrude, just acknowledge them then allow them to flow on past, and return your attention to your breathing..
Now as you inhale, feel yourself breathing in relaxation.
As you exhale, feel yourself breathe out tension. Breathing in…relaxation. Breathing out…tension.
With every in-breath, you breathe in relaxation. With every out- breath your shoulders drop and your body relaxes.
Feel your chest and stomach gently rise and fall with each breath. Notice how your body feels. How calm and gentle your breathing is, how relaxed your body is.
Continue watching your breathing, and staying mindful of it.. in and out.

As you drift off, allow my voice to bring your attention back to your breathing. Just watching your natural breathing rhythm as it comes in and goes out, breathing in and out..allowing the relaxation to flow in and out..

 Think of a person that you wish to let go of or cut off from or forgive. It might be someone who is presently in your life, regularly or not so frequent. They might be near to you or far away. Or it might be someone from your past.  Visualise the person standing in front of you. Think of your reasons for letting this person or issue to leave your life. It may be because the person or situation harms your well-being or causes you to feel negative emotions.. or simply because it is time to let go of the situation once and for all. Let yourself feel all the emotions attached to the situation and the person.
 Now bring your attention to your Solar Plexus, your stomach area… visualise a fine silvery energy cord that reaches from your solar plexus to their solar plexus, this silver cord that creates the link, the attachment to each other. See it radiate and pulsate as it feeds the energy connection.  Every time you even think about this person or be in contact with this person, the link between you is being strengthened.
Now imagine that you have a big pair of golden scissors in your hands… visualise yourself cutting through this energy cord with the scissors. If it does not cut through the first time, do it again with emotional strength behind it. Detaching yourself from this person.  Dissolving the connection. 
You are now completely detached. I want you to surround the person with healing green light, wish them well, bless them with love and forgiveness for their journey and watch them turn around and move off on their path.
 Feel the release around your solar plexus. I want you to pull any remaining energy back into your solar plexus..  cover and seal your solar plexus chakra with yellow light, telling yourself “I bring all my energy back to me”. You are safe and protected. You hold your own power with love.
Let yourself now be aware of any feelings of heaviness leftover- in your body or energy field or emotional. Visualise yourself under a gentle waterfall or shower of silver light. let this light pour over you, through you and out through your hands and feet and every orifice. Clearing and cleansing your energy field of any negative residue.
Bring your attention now to your chest area. Here, you can see a little green light, the emerald green of the heart chakra. Gently breathe into your Heart, letting it soften with each breath. Allow the green light to expand, to get brighter, to gently swirl in your chest. As you breathe out, let go of any tension in your heart. Allow it all to leave your heart with every out breath.
Release any negative emotions from your heart centre that have been wearing you down. Allow yourself to feel these emotions as they leave your body. Feel the pain and let it go with each out breath.. release all pain, unforgiveness, anger, grief, self loathing, loss, regret. It is natural to feel these emotions, and it is healthy to feel them deeply then let them go. Allow it all to leave the heart centre to make space for love. As you let go of the past, you realise that there are no mistakes, only lessons and growth as you move forward. Continuous cycles of learning and growing. Situations and people entering your life, and leaving again when the purpose is served. Everyone we meet is for a reason..a blessing or a lesson. Everything is happening in the right way at the right time.
And just as the body needs time to heal from an illness, the heart and soul also need time to heal from hurt, pain, anger, a gradual process of growing and healing. For now in this moment of time, let go of any hurt in your heart, make room to invite in another little bit of peace and healing, new and beautiful people and situations.
 Bring your attention back to your heart chakra…gently swirling ready to invite in some beautiful green light - the colour of spring. Bathe your heart centre with nourishment, renewal, healing. Let your Heart takes what it needs and tell yourself-
                        “I easily forgive myself and others. I lovingly forgive myself.
                           They are free and I am free.  All is well in my heart now.
                                   I allow myself to give and receive love freely”
 Fill up your heart centre with the green light, allowing it to heal you with every in breath. The green glow brings you deep love, compassion, balance. As you breathe in, allow it to fill up your whole chest area. You are loved. You are free. You are back to centre.
This is the chakra of love for yourself and others. Let it glow, bringing gifts of compassion, self-acceptance, and the ability to love deeply. Breathe in pink or green and let these feelings expand, seeing yourself living in perfect harmony with everyone in your life. Let it fill you with gratitude for this opportunity to live in this wonderful world. Feel your heart swell with compassion and forgiveness for yourself and others.
With every breath in allow this wonderful light to fill your heart, and radiate through your body, filling every little space, healing every cell that it fills. Let the light fill your heart and body until it is overflowing, until you have more than you need. Until you can spread your light and love back out again with the world, drawing it in through your heart chakra and letting it flow back out, in a beautiful cycle. Spend a few moments allowing yourself to breathe in the healing light, dissolving all those negative feelings.
Now visualise your heart chakra closing down a little, into the size of a fairy light, back to normal function.

Now, bring your awareness back to the flow of your breathing, in and out, in and out. Feel the cool breath in your nose and throat. Notice the natural movement of your tummy, rising & falling, as you breathe. Be aware again of your full body as it rests against the floor or seat. Bring your attention to your toes, and give them a little wiggle. Then to your fingers and give them a little wiggle. Give your shoulders a little shrug. Let yourself be aware of the room again, of all the sounds close by. And when you feel ready to, you can open your eyes, bringing yourself back to the present moment. Nice and gently, soaking up all the lovely feelings.
Take your time and have a little stretch. 

The 4 Clairs

The 4 Clair`s of Intuition are a natural way of perceiving your life experience.
We are all born with intuition, an inner knowing, gut feelings, instincts, sixth sense. I call it our own inner satnav or guiding light.
There are 4 ways to describe intuition and most of us have a clair that is naturally dominant, but each one can be fully developed at any stage in life, and they can also be dulled down just like a muscle that isn’t being exercised.

To See:  Physically seeing Energy- sparkles, orbs, spirit, energy etc.  Visions. Premonitions. Inner vision. Pictures in mind’s eye.  Dreams. Seeing visual signs: synchronicities and coincidences in pictures, books, TV, feathers, numbers. Seeing clearly the truth of a situation. Seeing or not seeing things in the same way as someone.

To Hear:  Physically hearing Energy or hearing it in your head- sounds, noises, music, spirit or angels, singing. Knocking. The inner voice inside your head. Hearing clearly the truth of a situation.  Hearing synchronicities and coincidences as advice from others, radio, repetitive music, phone ringing 3 times etc.

To Feel: Physically feeling Energy- tingles, coolness/heat, smell, touch from spirit or angels. Feeling the energy in a room or feeling other peoples energy. To get a `good` or `bad` feeling about something. Gut feelings. Feeling sensations within your physical body. “Putting the feelers out”. Getting a `feeling` about a person or place. Feeling on the same wavelength as someone.


To Know: Thinking Energy- just knowing something. Having specific thoughts. Knowing that Spirit or Angels are nearby. “I just know!”.  Having a bright idea. Knowledge from unknown source or book. Insights about people and situations. Solutions to problems. Being certain about something without really knowing why. 

GCCP: Grounding, Centering, Connecting, Protecting

GCCP-  Ground, Centre, Connect, Protect your energy
Exercise: Feeling The Flow of Your Energy
Place your hands palm to palm. Briskly rub your hands together. Now, slowly begin to move them apart. As you do this, focus on the sensations in your palms.  Do you feel a tingling? A heat? A slight pressure? If not, try rubbing your hands together again and closing your eyes, to filter out distractions.  When you feel something, slowly, move your hands apart to see how long you can maintain the recognition of the physical sensations.
Congratulations! You have experienced the first step towards working with your personal energies. Don't be alarmed or discouraged if you felt little or nothing the first time. Many people have to practice for quite some time before they have discernible, physical sensations.
Grounding- Close your eyes and imagine strong energy roots coming from your feet down into the earth, connecting you with nature and grounding you. Push the roots deep down into the centre of the earth. Allow the beautiful earthy energy to travel back up through the roots to fill your entire body with all the valuable nutrients and power from nature. Tell yourself “I am grounded”.
Centering- Now bring your attention to your solar plexus chakra, just above your abdomen. Visualise the little golden yellow whirlpool of this chakra  now acting as a magnet to pull all your scattered energies from the day back to you. Visualise your aura, the energy field emanating out from you,  being pulled in closer to your physical body. Bring it in nice and close and tell yourself  “I bring all my energy back to me”.
Connecting- Now bring your attention to your forehead, and imagine there is a closed eyelid just like your physical eyes. This is your Third Eye. Visualise this eyelid opening just the same way as your physical eyes do. Visualise the deep blue chakra here spinning and pulling in all the information you need into your Third Eye. Tell yourself “Everything I need to know is revealed to me”.
Now bring your attention to the top of your head, your crown chakra- a lovely little violet light spinning just above your head.  Think about where you believe to be the centre of the universe, source, God, whatever you perceive it to be. From that centre visualise a strong pillar of bright white light coming down into your crown chakra (the top of your head), imagine it pouring down into your head filling you with fresh energy. Tell yourself “I am connected to the Divine”
(NB- Remember to close down the Chakras and Third Eye if overwhelmed and at night).
Protecting- Now visualise your aura, your energy field that is emanating from your body.  Surround your aura in a shield of light, a deep blue, strong shield of light. Only love gets through this shield of light. You can also surround this further with a sparkling gold shield that `zaps` away unwanted energies- use what works best for you. Tell yourself “ I am protected. Only love gets through”.

Closing down the chakras

Bring your attention back to your forehead, your brow chakra, the indigo light spinning, I want you to imagine it closing down to normal function, to the size of a little fairy light. Bring your attention to the top of your head, your crown chakra, the violet light spinning. And imagine it too closing down to normal function, the size of a fairy light.

Space Clearing

Its important to prepare yourself for a house clearing both mentally, physically and energetically. This can be done in different ways:

GCCP: Ground, Centre, Connect and Protect. (See attached). During a clearing you will be shifting all the energy that has been stored or stagnant within each room, therefore it is advisable to carry out this routine prior to a cleanse in order to protect your own energy from absorbing the energy you are clearing out.
Meditation: Some meditation before a clearing is very useful in getting you relaxed and connected in order to heighten your awareness of the energy in the room. During your meditation is also the time to call on any guardians, angels or guides to help with your clearing.
Set the Intention: Having a clear idea in your mind of what you intend for the clearing will remove any fears and help you to remain focused throughout.
Shower: It is a good idea to cleanse your body before a clearing and definitely after a clearing as water is a natural purifier. Washing your hands after a clearing is the very least you should do.
Wearing red: This can be useful to help you remain grounded throughout.
Moon energy: Using the Moon cycles to pinpoint times for clearing and inviting new energy (see attached moon cycle).

Space Preparation:
Air: Open the windows to give the shifted energy somewhere to go as well as allowing a breath of fresh air into the room.
Clean: Physically tidy and clean the room especially dusting the corners.
Sense the energy: Have a walk around each room and take notice of the energy. Use your 4 clairs to sense how the energy feels. (See attached for the 4 clairs). Is it light or heavy? Are you intuitively drawn to any particular areas? Do you feel any tingles? etc.. Energy is very often stored in the corners of a room and within the walls and furniture especially stone walls. You can use a pendulum to dowse the energy of the space especially if you need to establish the presence of any entities (note you should consult an experienced space clearer or medium for this).
Create a sacred circle: by placing 4 candles in each corner. Fire, like water and earth will also purify the space as well as form a protective circle. This is a good time to call on the Guardians or Angels of the four directions to protect the space during the clearing. (see affirmations).
Onions: You can cut onions into quarters and set in the four corners of the room to absorb energy.
Salt: Setting a bowl of salt in the centre of the room can also absorb energy.

Affirmations can be used throughout each step of a clearing. Here are a few examples:
While setting the intention you could affirm “I intend to clear, cleanse and purify this house of all negative energy, and replace with new, fresh, positive energy.”
As you physically tidy the room you could affirm “I bless this ______(item) with love and thank it for its use. I tidy it safely away to use another time”
During the clearing you could affirm “Cleanse this house and make it clear, only good may enter here.” or “I bless this room with love” or “Out with the old in with the new”
During the space prep as you light the candles you could affirm “I call on the Guardian/Angel of the North to protect this space” and go through each direction.
After the clearing when you are inviting new energy into your home you could affirm “All that is fine now appear, know that you are welcome here.” and “I invite ________(peace, loving relationship etc) into this space. Make this house your home and I will be grateful in return. And so it is”

Crystals: There are many crystals that may be useful throughout each stage of your clearing. You may wish to use Selenite to help absorb negative energy. You might wear Tigers Eye to help you remain grounded throughout. You might also use crystals during your Invitation stage eg Rose Quartz in the bedroom for harmonious relationships or placed according to your Feng Shui Bagua. Cleanse and charge your crystals and set their intention before using. (see attached).

Clearing the Space:
During the clearing you can call on the angels to help, especially Archangel Michael and the Band of Mercy.
“Through the authority invested in me by the Cosmic Christ Consciousness, I deliberately call forth to the energy of the Archangel Michael and the **Band of Mercy to enter the home, body, car and place of work of _____________ to remove all negative influences and entities. I ask that these energies and entities be taken into the light for transmutation and that there be no negative side effects physical, mental or emotional to ___________`s body. I ask that ____________`s body now be triple sealed (visualise the person in three bubbles of light, purple, pink and white) against any further invasion of negative forces.”
**The Band of Mercy is a group of Angels whose job it is to move lost souls out of the astral plane.

Call on the Archangel Jophiel who is the `Feng Shui Angel` the angel of beautiful surroundings.

Sound: Using sound will shift energy. Clapping your hands loudly around the whole room especially into the corners is advised. You could also use a Gong or a Tibetan Singing Bowl or Tingshas for a smaller space.

Sage/Incense: Burning white sage has traditionally been the most effective way to clear a space. Waft it around the room especially into corners. You may wish to use a feather to do this. Burning Incense will also help to disinfect a space. You could also burn or spray Essential oils such as Lavender.

Symbolism/Reiki: Reiki symbols are a powerful way to empower your space clearing if you are a Reiki Practitioner.

Inviting in new energy:
After you have cleared your space you should take time to notice how the energy in the room now feels. Notice any spots that still heavy or not right and redo them.
Then you should spend time inviting in new energy, You can use various tools for this.

Colour: You could decorate the room or an altar with different coloured objects, ribbons,  candles, flowers, paintings etc to invite in a particular quality. (see colour chart attached).

Feng Shui: You could do some basic feng shui if you cant consult an expert. Notice the physical space, the furniture layout and how the energy might flow into and around the room. Take note of how mirrors are reflecting the energy and the positioning of plants and crystals to absorb energy for example near electronics. Use objects and symbolism within each room eg if you are trying to invite in love place a statue of a loving couple in the bedroom, make sure there are no pictures of lone ladies etc. Use affirmations to state what you are inviting into each space eg in the kitchen “I invite warm homely get togethers with nutritious meals”. You could use an easy feng shui bagua to pinpoint the areas of the house.

Sound: Harmony balls are a beautiful way to introduce new energy into a room.

Closing down the ritual:
Remove onions or salt and dispose.
Thank your guides and angels.
Close down the sacred circle and blow out your candles.

Cleanse your crystals.

Thursday, 20 November 2014

SIMPLE SOUPS: Butternut Squash Soup

Butternut Squash
Clove of Garlic chopped
Small red chilli chopped (or more if you like it hot)
Small onion chopped
Coriander (dried or fresh) I much prefer fresh but only had dried for this time. 
Vegetable stock (my fave is Swiss Marigold Bouillon)

*Chop the squash into small pieces and oven roast flesh-side down until softened.
*Gently cook the onion, garlic and chilli in oil or butter until softened.
*Scoop the flesh away from the skin on the squash pieces and add to the pot.
*Add the coriander at this stage if using dried.
*Cover with veggie stock and top up as needed to the consistency you prefer.
*Simmer for about 20-30 minutes then blend.
*If using fresh coriander, add at this stage.
*Can add a swirl of fresh cream if desired. 

Friday, 14 November 2014

SIMPLE SOUPS: Irish-Italian Soup

This soup is so tasty its addictive! Its really easy as well as being good for you!

Equal amounts of:
        Chopped leek
        Chopped savoy cabbage
        Chopped potatoes
Carton of chopped tomatoes (or passata)
Vegetable stock (my fave is Swiss Marigold Bouillon)
Dried Oregano (1-2 teaspoons)

Lightly cook leek and potato in oil or butter.
Add oregano and tomatoes.
Add enough stock to cover veg, then simmer until cooked. (Top up with water or stock if needed throughout cooking.)